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It’s not every year college graduates receive life lessons from a famous frog and the chairman of the Federal Reserve, but in 2025, commencement speeches by celebrities, athletes, and political leaders are as varied as those turning tassels this spring.

While college graduation season continues through mid-June, in the spirit of optimism for the future of the Class of 2025, we are highlighting some of the year’s standout quotes from speeches at Johns Hopkins University, Emerson College, Princeton University, and NYU.

Jerome Powell, Chairman of the Federal Reserve, Princeton University

“We all move at our own pace, and that’s ok. Fifty years later, I can tell you something I did not know then: The vast majority of what you need to know about work, about relationships, about yourself, about life, you have yet to learn. And that itself is a tremendous gift.

Over the remainder of your life, you must continue to educate yourself and to grow as a person, becoming more focused on what really matters, more widely knowledgeable, better read, more disciplined, and more strategic. But also wiser, kinder, more empathetic, more generous, more loving, more forgiving of others and of yourself. Each of us is a work in progress. The possibilities for self-improvement are limitless.”

Actress Jennifer Coolidge, Emerson College

“When you find the thing that you want to do, I really want to highly recommend, just friggin’ go for it. You really have to psych yourself up into believing absurd possibilities, and you have to believe that they are not absurd.”

Actress Molly Shannon, NYU

“Whatever road you choose to follow, you will hit bumps. These bumps will make you feel stuffed or like a failure, or make you regret choosing to go down that road in the first place–the key is how you react.”

Musician Andree3000, Berklee College of Music

“If you are an artist, your job is to stay true to what you feel and stay true to your instincts and stay true to what drives you.”

Actress Regina Hall, Fordham University

“What I don’t remember is my GPA, I don’t remember many of my tests or exams, what I do remember are the people who helped me type papers late at night, my professors, who took extra time with instructions and support, because college is not merely an academic institution. It’s a stepping stone to building independence and testing the limits of your moral compass. So we look to you to hold humanity to the highest standard, to remind us of our divine nature. You will exemplify the excellence that resides in us all.”

Former Major League Baseball shortstop for the New York Yankees and Baseball Hall-of-Famer Derek Jeter, University of Michigan

“You owe it to yourself to think long and hard about what you want to do with your life. To think about what you value most. It’s a choice. Your choice. There may be unwanted side effects with those dreams, too. Side effects like doubt, criticism, endless hours at work. But that’s the price you pay.”

Actor Lavar Burton, Howard University

“Remember that you are descended from some of the most resilient souls in the history of humanity. And whatever you do, do not allow fear to paralyze you into non-action.”

Today Show co-host Al Roker, Siena College

“Truth matters, and that’s never been more relevant than right now. We are in a moment when truth is under attack, when the loudest voice, too often, drowns out the most honest one, where misinformation spreads faster than facts, and that’s why your voices matter.”

Sal Khan, Educator, Founder and CEO of Khan Academy, Johns Hopkins University

“There’s no Forbes list of the 500 happiest people on Earth. If there were, I suspect most of them would be people we’ve never heard of, but they’ve had a few things in common. A strong community of friends and family, a sense of purpose, a way to express themselves creatively. They’d feel appreciated. They’d laugh often, they’d see the glass half full and not take themselves too seriously. Many would have basic financial security, but plenty would have far less material wealth than most of us. So, as you build yourself in the traditional sense, also invest in what gives you meaning.”

Philosopher and Musician, Kermit the Frog, University of Maryland

“Life is not a solo act; no, it’s not. It’s a big, messy, delightful ensemble piece, especially when you are with your people. Life is better when we leap together.”

Civility and cohesion were the overarching messages from the first day of the Milken Institute Global Conference.

Managing Director Jane Howze is again attending the annual event in Los Angeles, sharing her takeaways and insights from daily sessions featuring thought leaders, politicians, scientists, professional athletes, entrepreneurs, business leaders, and celebrities.

The Milken Institute Global Conference brings together the world’s brightest minds to address the most urgent challenges and unlock the most promising opportunities of our time. The four-day event connects individuals with the capital and influence to drive change with experts and innovators transforming health, finance, business, technology, philanthropy, industry, and society.

“The call for civility really impacts everyone,” Jane said. “Rich Ditizio’s speech was powerful. It’s energizing and hopeful to see people of different geographies and politics come together to listen and learn.”

The 28th annual Global Conference by the numbers:

Four Days
200 Sessions
300+Registered Media
900 Speakers
4,000+ Participants

Milken Institute CEO Richard Ditizio set the tone for the conference during his welcome speech with encouraging words and a plea for civility, despite differences.

“The future will not be built by living within our own echo chambers. It will be built by bold, inclusive coalitions that reflect the world we’re trying to realize,” said Ditizio. “And we have many past successes to lead the way—we see time and again, when capital, innovation, and collaboration come together, remarkable things happen. I know the challenges we face are enormous—but I also know that our capacity to meet them is even greater.”

Listen to Rich’s opening speech here.

Read on for highlights from various panels Jane attended throughout the first day of the Milken Institute Global Conference, covering the economy, the healthcare system and women’s health issues.

A Conversation with US Secretary of the Treasury Scott Bessent

Treasury Secretary Scott Bessent spoke at the Milken Institute Global Conference on Monday. Bloomberg Media reporters noted a few key quotes from his speech below.

Bessent says the Trump administration’s goal is to make the US an even more appealing destination for international capital.

“Tariffs are engineered to encourage companies like yours to invest directly in the United States. Hire your workers here. Build your factories here. Make your products here.”

“I hope you can see the bigger picture now. The Trump economic agenda is more than the sum of its parts. Trade, tax cuts and deregulation may be three distinct policies. But each policy is mutually reinforcing. And acting in concert, they push toward the same goal — to solidify our position as the home of global capital.”

Bessent is sketching out his vision for the American dream. Asked what the next 250 years should look like, he says, “To me, it’s equal opportunity for great outcomes.”

From Experience to Excellence: Women Redefining Business and Financial Wellness

Led by Sheryl WuDunn, Co-Founder of FullSky Partners and co-owner of Kristof Wines, the session explored the impact women are having on the entrepreneurial segment, thanks to trailblazing female founders, high-profile celebrities, Fortune 500 executives, and private sector leaders. It delved into safeguarding women’s cognitive health and the importance of adopting lifelong strategies for optimizing healthy longevity.

Jane was struck by the power and information shared during this “amazing talk.”

“The old script of how women are supposed to age is broken. Women are tearing it up midlife is no longer a winding down but actually gearing up.

Women are living longer than men, earning more degrees, starting more businesses at twice the rate of men and the fastest growing group of entrepreneurs are women over 45. That’s not a footnote that’s a power shift.

Why?

Because the system wasn’t built for women with ambition and aging parents and mortgages and hot flashes. So instead of waiting for the system to catch up women are building their own. They’re reinventing careers, demanding flexibility and bringing decades of wisdom and grit to the table. They’re not just chasing success, they are defining it on their own terms, that includes health, wealth and purpose. But here’s the kicker. For all this, women still face 2/3 of Alzheimer’s cases, we spend 23% more of our lives in poor health than men and end up with 30% less in retirement.

That’s just not unfair, that’s unsustainable.”

Watch the panel discussion here.

A Conversation with Centers for Medicare & Medicaid Services Administrator Mehmet Oz

Q: What have your first set of priorities been at the Centers for Medicare & Medicaid Services?

We’re starting off with the broad reality. We actually have objectives and key results. Start with the people–this is something I did not appreciate from the outside. I’ve never been in government before. These are highly competent, skilled individuals, very mission-driven. They come to work at HHS because they want to make America a healthier place. And many don’t feel like they’ve had the freedom to do that. So just activating the natural talent that we have within the organization is an initial focus of ours.

A: The main way we’ll deal with health care issues in America is by dealing with the 70% of the costs that are driven by chronic illness, much of it, of course, because of lifestyle choices that we’re making, sometimes without complete awareness of the impact it will have on us.

We spend twice as much as any other developed country in the world, twice as much for our health care per capita, and yet our health quality continues to drop. We have the highest mortality rate for moms delivering babies. We have a tragically dropping a differential between Europe and life expectancy. We’re now five years behind. When I was in medical school, we were equal to Europe. So we’re not getting our money’s worth; we can’t just throw money at the problem. We have to use it wisely and judiciously to make sure that vulnerable are cared for, but also we do our fiduciary responsibility to the American taxpayer.

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This February, we’re delving deeper into the origins of Black History Month and welcoming insights from clients and friends of the firm about ways we can honor the mission and vision Dr. Carter G. Woodson established in 1926.

Dr. Carter G. Woodson was a distinguished Black author, editor, publisher, and historian who founded the Association for the Study of Negro Life and History in 1915 in Chicago, describing its mission as the scientific study of the “neglected aspects of Negro life and history. Black History Month evolved from that idea and celebrates the historic contributions of Black people. The month has been marked every February since 1976.

Woodson’s parents were illiterate former slaves, and his foundational education was spotty at best. Instead of the classroom, he worked in the West Virginia coal mines and on the family farm. He entered high school at 20 and graduated two years later.

Throughout his lifetime, Woodson became a school supervisor in the Philippines and later traveled throughout Europe and Asia after earning a bachelor’s degree in literature from Berea College in Kentucky.

Dr. Woodson also earned a master’s degree from the University of Chicago and became the second Black American, after W.E.B. Du Bois, to obtain a Ph.D. from Harvard University. He joined the faculty of Howard University and eventually served as Dean of the College of Arts and Sciences.

The February timing of Black History Month was intentional by Dr. Woodson, who launched Negro History Week in the second week of February to coincide with the birthdays of Abraham Lincoln and Frederick Douglass.

More than 100 years later, Black History Month is a significant event, highlighting well-known and less familiar individuals and their accomplishments, innovations and experiences.

The 2025 Black History Month theme of African Americans and Labor focuses on the various and profound ways work and working of all kinds—free and unfree, skilled and unskilled, vocational and voluntary—intersect with Black people’s collective experiences.

As an executive search firm, we understand the importance of work and are privileged to connect our clients with talented leaders across a swath of industries and roles.

We’re honored to have two friends of the firm share what Black History Month means to them and how we can actively participate in the annual event not just in February but every month on the calendar.

William M. Washington III, Global Chief Financial Officer, Baker McKenzie

As an African American CFO, Black History Month holds special significance for me. It is a time to reflect on the rich history, culture, and contributions of African Americans to our society. This month provides an opportunity to engage in meaningful discourse and gain deeper insights into the struggles and triumphs of our community.

During Black History Month, it is important to remember and honor influential figures such as Martin Luther King Jr., Harriet Tubman, Barack Obama, and Maya Angelou. Their contributions have left an indelible mark on American history and continue to inspire us today.

Growing up, my parents taught me the importance of knowing about Black history year-round. They instilled in me the value of understanding our heritage and its impact on our present and future. Black History Month is a reminder of the resilience, strength, and determination that have been the hallmarks of our journey.

By celebrating our history, we acknowledge our progress and the work that still needs to be done to achieve true equality and justice.

As an African American leader, I believe it is my responsibility to mentor and guide others, helping them to rise and achieve their full potential. One quote that resonates deeply with me is from Booker T. Washington: “If you want to lift yourself up, lift up someone else.” This quote embodies the spirit of Black History Month for me. It is a call to action to support and uplift one another as we strive for success.

To actively participate in Black History Month, consider supporting Black-owned businesses. This helps to promote economic empowerment within the community. Additionally, donating to charities that support Black causes can make a significant impact. Organizations like Black Lives Matter, NAACP, and the ACLU are doing important work that benefits the community. Lastly, participating in local movements and events can provide valuable opportunities to learn and engage with others who are passionate about celebrating Black history and culture.

Black History Month is a time to celebrate our heritage, reflect on our progress, and commit to lifting each other up. It is a reminder that our collective strength lies in our unity and our ability to support one another. Let us continue to honor the legacy of our ancestors and work towards a brighter future for all.

Marjorie Josaphat, Executive Director, Human Resources, Milken Institute

Here are some ways we have honored Black History throughout the year and my 30 years in Human Resources:

Highlighting courses taught by black authors in celebration of Black History Month.

Sharing short, animated clips about Black historical figures with staff.

Encouraging staff to share foods from their diverse backgrounds, including African, Caribbean, and American cuisine.

Sharing short biographies of lesser-known yet impactful Black men and women who have contributed to the formation and elevation of people in America.

At Milken Institute, we honor Black History throughout the year by ensuring diverse speakers and contributors at all our conferences and by fostering a diverse workforce.

Learn More About Black Leaders, Innovators, Educators and Creators:

Association for the Study of African American Life and History (ASALH®)

National Association for the Advancement of Colored People (NAACP)

https://naacp.org/

Smithsonian

https://www.si.edu/events/black-history-month

In recent years, mental health has emerged from the closet to be openly discussed in the business world. Corporate America talks about it in terms of work-life balance, burnout, and managing stress while offering resources and advice. Yet, I have never seen much written about post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).

Two years ago, I was involved in a horrible accident. It was an accident that changed my life in every way. I promised myself that once I got far enough away from it to gain perspective, I would write about it and what I learned.

It was one of those wonderful spring nights in Houston where the sun sets at 7:30, the humidity is low, and it is pleasantly warm—the days you just want to be outside. My husband and I walked to dinner two blocks away from our home as is often our habit. There were lots of people walking the streets, all enthused by the wonderful weather.

After dinner, we crossed the busy intersection of Kirby Drive, where people were crossing ahead and behind us. Suddenly, I was thrown in the air by a car that had run a red light and hit me. Time stood still, and out of the corner of my eye, I could see my husband being thrown in the air as well. My husband lay dazed in the middle of the street. I thought he was dead. I was covered in blood and also lying in the intersection. He later admitted he thought I was dead. Fortunately, other cars stopped and formed a circle around us to protect us from being run over us a second time. The driver reluctantly stopped but did not get out of the car. For a short period of time, I could not move my legs, and there was a large tire track where the car had run over my right foot. An ambulance arrived within ten minutes and, with sirens blaring, whisked us to the emergency room.

After spending the night in the emergency room, I was diagnosed with two broken legs along with a deep cut above my eye that required surgery. My husband was battered and bruised. I avoided surgery by agreeing not to put weight on my feet for two months and using a wheelchair. Healing my broken legs bruised and battered face would be the easy part.

Touring Amsterdam shortly after the accident.

The following day I posted details of my accident on Facebook assuring friends that I would be okay and vowing to get back to work the next week, wheelchair and all. Along with numerous messages of love and concern, there was a message from a therapist friend that said, “Jane I strongly recommend you and your husband get PTSD counseling.” I wondered what he meant because I was worried about getting from my wheelchair into a shower. It didn’t take long to find out.

During a torrential downpour the next day, we embarked on our first of many doctors’ appointments. My husband and I panicked. We knew what we could see but didn’t know what we couldn’t see—just like in the accident. Was a car going to come out of nowhere and run us down? Would we be unexpectedly rear-ended? Not surprisingly ,it took us 90 minutes to make the six-mile trip. I was shaking and in tears.

My emotions were not limited to car rides. As I recovered, I sat in my wheelchair in our home—a 17th-floor high-rise—where I looked out on the scene of the accident. My heart raced, and I broke out into a cold sweat as memories of the accident engulfed me—the sound of metal hitting my leg, the nearby pedestrians screaming for the driver to stop, and the claustrophobia I felt riding in an ambulance strapped to a spinal board. These thoughts consumed me.

I knew I needed help to deal with my emotional injury. The first order of business was to learn what PTSD is and what can be done to treat it.

What is PTSD?

Most people associate PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder) with soldiers returning from combat. But it is broader than that. PTSD is an emotional reaction to traumatic events (accident, natural disaster, violence, assault) that can take the form of nightmares, heightened anxiety, avoidance, memory lapses, and intense physiological reactions to reminders of the trauma, such as rapid heartbeat and sweating.

Studies indicate that 3.5 percent of the US population will experience PTSD in a given year. It can happen immediately after the event or years later. People of any age, gender, ethnicity and background can experience it.

PTSD can be mild. One friend was in a bicycle accident and ended up in a ditch with no one to help her. While she does not have nightmares about the accident, she no longer rides bicycles, and the accident has not had any emotional impact on her except her depriving herself of the joy of bike riding. It can also be severe and affect the quality of one’s life. We all have heard stories about people who were sexually abused as a child and in their adult years start having recurring nightmares and anxiety so severe it affects their ability to sustain relationships.

Treatment for PTSD

There are many ways to treat PTSD, including medication, traditional therapy, and specific targeted therapies. Targeted therapies include Prolonged Exposure Therapy, which teaches individuals to approach trauma-related memories they have been avoiding, Cognitive Processing Therapy, which teaches people to identify how the traumatic experiences have affected their thinking and entail consciously modifying disturbing thought patterns that interfere with the patient’s life, and Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing which involves the patient revisiting the trauma in bits and pieces with alternating stimuli (eye movement or tapping) in a structured session.

In my case, I did not want to take medication and knew that traditional therapy –talking about my childhood—would not help. I googled the Veteran’s Administration website, which has considerable information about PTSD and treatments. One referral led to another and to yet another, and I found a specialist who was close to my home (another positive since driving long distances was not in my traumatized husband’s wheelhouse, and I could not drive). My therapist specialized in Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR).

My therapy involved sitting face-to-face with my therapist. In her calm and soothing voice, she asked me to describe the accident—not only what happened but what I felt in my body as I described it. She would ask me to describe the negative feelings and rate the distress I felt. She did this while instructing me to follow her hand with my eyes or while tapping on my arm or leg.

I’m not sure why the eye movement works but one Harvard researcher hypothesizes that for reasons connected with the biological mechanism involved in Rapid Eye Moment (REM) sleep, internal associations arise and the client begins to process the memory differently and from an empowered place. My therapist, Jennifer Christian, states, “The body is made to heal; EMDR taps into this healing process, calms the nervous system, reduces the level of distress when remembering, and helps us to reconnect with ourselves.”

Each time I visited her and processed the memory I started to see it differently and my distress lessened. From being scared and angry, I started thinking, “Yeah, this happened, but you know what? I am okay. I survived. I am resilient.”

How long does the therapy last and does it work?

One of the benefits of EMDR therapy is that it is not something you do for years. Most protocols require eight treatments. After five sessions, I felt like my old self and saw the accident as just an unfortunate alignment of the stars rather than an event that would define who I was.

Before and after: Back in Amsterdam—and back on her feet—one year later

The EMDR Institute reports that more than 30 positive controlled outcome studies have been done on EMDR therapy. Some of the studies show that 84 to 90 percent of single-trauma victims no longer have post-traumatic stress disorder after only three 90-minute sessions. Another study, funded by the HMO Kaiser Permanente, found that 100 percent of the single-trauma victims and 77 percent of multiple trauma victims no longer were diagnosed with PTSD after only six 50-minute sessions. In another study, 77 percent of combat veterans were free of PTSD in 12 sessions.

With the focus today on mental health, perhaps corporations should investigate whether this treatment would be beneficial for depression, low self-esteem, or even work-related stress. One of the many lessons I learned from my accident was that talking about mental health and asking for help was part of the healing process.

Let the talking and healing begin.

Throughout the past year, we’ve enjoyed an array of global travels, meaningful books, thought-provoking films, and live music experiences that prompted us to dance and sing. Deeming something “the best” is a heady move, but The Alexander Group knows a few things about exemplary talent, so we offer these 2024 arts and pop culture superlatives as we head into 2025.

Jane Howze, Managing Director

Best Film: Documentary Daughters streaming on Netflix. It’s about a daddy/daughter dance, where the fathers are incarcerated. Look for it to get an Oscar nod.

Best Concert: It’s hard to pick as I went on a concert BINGE this year. Taylor Swift (multiple shows), Joni Mitchell at the Hollywood Bowl, and the Rolling Stones in San Francisco.

Best Trip/Travel Destination: The Gleneagles in Scotland for a bucket list golf trip.

John Mann, Managing Director

Best Film(s): Movies are Will and Harper and The Menendez Brothers documentaries. Will and Harper’s insight into a personal conversation with one of my favorite actors, Will Ferrell, and his good friend’s transformative journey.

The Menendez Brothers is gripping— the story of these infamous brothers and their plea for mercy.

Best Book: Framed by John Grisham (currently reading). It’s the perfect mix of my interest in nonfiction and crime thriller documentaries and shows like Dateline and 20/20.

Best Trip/Travel Destination: Spending Thanksgiving with family on the Big Island, Hawaii. It was an unforgettable week filled with beautiful moments, amazing company, fantastic golf, and breathtaking sunsets.

Jean Lenzner, Managing Director

Best Book: The Women by Kristen Hannah

Sarah Mitchell, Director

Best Book: All Fours by Miranda July

Wellness by Nathan Hill was a close second but was published in 2023

Best Concert/Album: Ben Folds at the San Francisco Symphony!

Best Trip/Travel Destination: We were absolutely delighted by our August visit to Bend, Oregon. Incredible hiking, views, food, and craft beer in Central Oregon. We can’t wait to go back.

Kyle Robinson, Director of Research

Best Film: Deadpool & Wolverine. Funniest movie I’ve seen in quite a while.

Best Trip/Travel Destination: Disneyworld! It was a trip “for the kids,” but it also fulfilled a lifelong wish for my wife and me. We can’t wait to go back!

Jacqueline Griffin, Director of Accounting and Administration

Best Book: The House of Cross by James Patterson

Best 2024 Concert/Album: Earth Wind and Fire and Santana

Anthony Ott, Senior Associate

Best Book: After the Rain by Alexandra Elle. It is a book comprised of gentle reminders for Healing, Courage, and Self-Love. It is for everyone learning how to dance in the rain. Your storms do not define you. Trust your pilgrimage and uncover your joy. It’s an easy peace-giving read.

Best Concert/Album: I went to The Beach Boys! How nostalgic that was!

Best Trip/Travel Destination: I was heading to New Orleans for a golf trip, but it was canceled at the last second because of a hurricane warning. I was at the airport and called by my brother, who was also there for our annual golf trip to celebrate our birthdays. We pivoted quickly to Las Vegas and got comped rooms at the Bellagio. We had an opportunity to play Bali Hai Golf Club, the only championship golf course remaining on the famed Las Vegas Strip. When we pulled up to the 18^th hole, Butch Harmon was there watching… the most nervous I have EVER been standing over a golf ball.

Abby Buchold, Senior Research Associate

Best Concert: Sarah McLachlan in early July was the only concert I attended this year—the tickets were a birthday gift from my husband. She performed all of the songs from her 1993 album, Fumbling Towards Ecstasy. I wore that CD out and had to buy a new copy in 1997! As trailing GenX-ers, her music was a college staple for my husband and me. She’s just as amazing now as she was in the 90s!

Best Trip/Travel Destination: We traveled to beautiful Thessaloniki, Greece with some friends in May. Thessaloniki is a lovely city in northern Greece on a bay just off the Aegean, and it is the hometown of one of our travel companions. Highlights included Mt. Olympus, Philippi, and Grevena, a town known as the mushroom capital of Greece. We had nearly perfect weather and enjoyed visiting many seaside tavernas for amazing seafood. I never thought I’d love fried sardines, but I do now.

Jennifer Lee, Administrative Assistant

Best Film: Deadpool & Wolverine

Best Book: Atomic Habits by James Clear (came out in 2018, but I read it this year)

Best Concert/Album: Ten Days – Fred Again

Best Trip/Travel Destination: Goldbar, Washington

Lindsay Ames, Research Associate

Best Concert/Album: My favorite concert of 2024 is a combination with my favorite travel destination (as my family and I haven’t been travelling much lately). Las Vegas, Nevada, for the Sick New World 2024 festival.

My husband and I have gone two years in a row to this festival, for its inaugural and second years, to see our favorite heavy/nu-metal band, System of a Down. We were planning to attend next year as well, but SOAD decided not to headline for 2025 (Metallica and Linkin Park, with their new lead singer, were co-headlining the bill instead), and the festival was not able to sell out like they had the first two years and canceled.

My, how the times have changed. Not a decade ago, businesses sought to outdo each other’s holiday parties. Companies vied for the most astonishing locale, hottest caterer, and spirits—so much so that the production overshadowed the season’s true nature.

Ever since the New York Times and the New Yorker published articles chronicling allegations of sexual assault and harassment against producer Harvey Weinstein and seemingly every media star or mogul you have ever heard of, with more women coming forward each day, corporate America is taking notice.

Challenger, Grey & Christmas, an outplacement consulting firm, conducted a holiday party survey of 150 human resource representatives titled, “Is the ‘Weinstein effect’ causing companies to curtail celebrations?” The firm reported that about 10 percent of employers will not hold a holiday party this year after having held them in the past. Less than half of employers (47.8 percent) will provide alcohol at holiday parties this year, down from 62 percent in 2016. “Employers are currently very wary of creating an environment where inappropriate contact between employees could occur,” said Andrew Challenger, Vice President of Challenger, Gray & Christmas.

A Company Party has the Word “Company” in it.

During my 40-year career, I have attended more than 500 holiday and office parties. Most of them, even back then, were participated in by well-behaved executives, but there were always a few situations where you just shook your head and wondered, “What were they thinking?”

Not grokking the purpose of the party. Many people go to a holiday business party (theirs or a business client’s or partner’s) with a different mindset. They assume it is a party—which it is in a sense. More importantly, work occurs under various conditions, from regular workdays to those with many of the same people. There are people at the party who establish your salary, if you are ready for the promotion or if they want to do business with you. Because you are not in the office, it can be tempting to be overly casual or say things that you would not otherwise say in the office.
Hors d’oeuvres do not mean dinner. Some people at business gatherings make a beeline for the serving table and pile a plate so high with food that I worry the plate will crack from the weight. They eat so much that you cannot even distract them with a “happy holiday.”
Talking to only those with whom you work. If you are hosting a party for clients or potential clients, avoid the temptation to speak with your work colleagues. Remember, many of the people attending may only know a few people. You are a host, even if you don’t know many attendees.
Arriving too early or leaving too late. Nothing is worse than guests who attend a party 15 minutes before the event begins. Well, there is something worse: the guests have a good time staying long after the party ends.
Drinking too much. Getting sloshed at a business event is one of the worst ideas ever, but it happens at every holiday business party. And the next day, you can hear the whispers, “Did you see Evelyn struggle to find her way out of the house?” “Boy, Bob sure was not feeling any pain last night.” Do you want to be the person everyone talks about the next day? Will that engender respect or help your career? Enough said.

Advice from a Pro

Cindy Clifford, President of The Clifford Group and one of the nation’s leading PR gurus, has planned thousands of corporate events. She offers the following advice:

Dress up but not so much that you stand out. Consider the occasion. The attire for a business open house may differ from that of a cocktail party.
Arrive about 15 minutes after the party starts and leave before it ends. You don’t have to say goodbye when you leave; folks are busy. You can sneak out.
Mix and mingle with everyone. Avoid only talking to your close colleagues and those you know.
Make light conversation about holiday shopping, holiday plans, business, etc. It is not time to get into the nuts and bolts of work, especially not your career. And it goes without saying that this is not the year to discuss politics. Avoid pitching your business if you are at a prospective client’s gathering.
Eat the food. Someone planned this event, and they want to see people enjoying it. Don’t ask for a to-go box or act like this is your first meal in months.
Alcohol. If you have one or two drinks, switch to Perrier. Do not drive other colleagues home unless you are a solid, sober, designated driver.
There are different rules for home parties. If it’s at your boss’s home, bring a small gift. Do not bring a bottle of wine that says, ‘I didn’t put any effort or thought into this.’ Instead, get a book you love, a box of fancy candy, or something special. If you are attending a party at home, don’t ask for bourbon if only wine is served. Only wander the house if you ask. If you break something, let the host know.
Write a thank you note and mail it. This is so rare nowadays and very impressive to the receiver.
Respect others’ boundaries. Be careful not to become overly physically familiar with people you don’t know well. It is a new day, and it is better to err on the safe side.
Have fun. But remember, it’s business.

As Thanksgiving week approaches, it is time to reflect on our many blessings both personally and professionally. Over the years I’ve shared that Thanksgiving is my favorite holiday, I’ve reflected on the gauntlet of travelling during the busiest day for air travel, and polled our team on their favorite Thanksgiving foods.

This year, acknowledging the less blessed moments of family gatherings, I asked our team to offer our readers advice: How to survive awkward family moments over the holiday—from diffusing heated political discussions, to ignoring that embarrassing thing your weird uncle does, to nice things to say about a disastrous turkey, to negotiating old traditions in a newly blended family. We’ve changed names and details to protect the innocent (and the guilty) to avoid a new awkward moment this Thanksgiving.

I’ll start us off:

Flipping the Bird

Eight years ago, in November, I packed up my life and moved to California. I was coming here for all the right reasons: business opportunities, the weather, love and more taxes (of which I remind my lovely Faith every April 15th!).

What I didn’t know was that holiday time would include the past spouse. It seems I found myself the Mother Theresa of northern California, and all orphans were welcome, large or small.

Settling in to this novel concept was challenging, but what started as mild concern turned into awkward alarm when HE put the bird on my grill and announced he would make it. Didn’t he know the adage: Never touch another man’s grill?

I haven’t touched a turkey in eight years!

Finally, we begged off the “bring an X” tradition, and I thought this year would be my chance. I was wrong.

“My daughter is bringing her chef friend,” Faith announced with glee. “He’s smoking the turkey!”

My advice? There’s always football.

Best. Brownies. Ever.

Sometimes, families clash over the ingredients of traditional holiday dishes. One person may insist that marshmallows top the sweet potato casserole, while another vehemently protests. One family member can’t eat gluten; another is horrified that the stuffing is gluten-free. Then, there is the “special” ingredient that one Thanksgiving guest added to a batch of brownies. Alex & Red Managing Director John Mann tells the story:

Thankfully, most of my Thanksgiving holidays have been intentionally innocuous and time well spent with family and friends. However, several years ago a friend shared a story of her Thanksgiving holiday. She was hosting Thanksgiving that year and asked each family member attending to bring a specific dish—rolls, stuffing, sides and desserts. Her sister volunteered to bring brownies but took it a step further and made an “adults only” batch of brownies. To my friend’s surprise, her sister persuaded a few of her teetotaling senior relatives to try them. Needless to say, she reported that by early evening most of the adults were mellow and agreeable, or sound asleep.

John’s advice? Pass the brownies.

“So… when am I going to be a grandma?”

Research Associate Abby Buchold reminds us, “with the holidays approaching, many of us will be at the table or sitting on the couch with overly curious relatives. I count myself lucky that neither my parents nor my in-laws ever prodded me with questions about having kids, but occasionally one of my husband’s relatives would get up the nerve to ask him about it. (I think they were afraid to ask that in front of me.) My husband tells me they never ask again if he gives this answer, ‘I’m too selfish to have kids.’”

Abby’s advice? Silence a cringe-worthy line of questioning with a polite but firm response.

It’s 5 o’clock somewhere

Senior Associate James Irvine shares this story:

In 2015, my parents, brother, fiancée and 13 aunts, uncles and cousins gathered in Carmel, California for Thanksgiving. It was great to get everyone together in a breathtakingly gorgeous place, but 18 adults under one roof can get hectic! Late afternoon on Thanksgiving day, a few of us drove to Pebble Beach to grab a cocktail, as is necessary when navigating such a large family gathering.

Jamie’s advice? Keep your cool with a cocktail (as long as it’s enjoyed in moderation).

The introvert’s guide to Thanksgiving, by Research Director Kyle Robinson

For introverts, large gatherings of people—yes, even family members—can quickly drain their energy. It is tiring to always be “on” and carry on conversations with people you haven’t seen since the previous holiday season (and to bite your tongue when your crazy uncle starts off on one of his political rants again). So, here are a few easy tips for any introvert to remember while surviving the holiday season.

1. Come prepared with talking points. Have some conversation starters prepared to help avoid those awkward silences that send introverts running for the hills. Remember that your cousin John recently moved to California; ask him how he is enjoying the weather at this time of year. Ask your Aunt Susan how retirement is treating her, and whether she has any trips planned for the coming year.

2. Step away for a few minutes. When you have reached your people limit, find a quiet place to retreat to for a few minutes to sit in solitude. Or, take a short walk around the block for a few minutes of peace.

3. Help out your host in some way. Giving yourself some sort of task helps keep your mind focused on one thing, while simultaneously making yourself seem social. Take people’s coats as they arrive, help set the table, or offer to do the dishes. It requires very little social interaction while at the same taking care of a huge chore that nobody likes to do.

4. Remember for what you are thankful. Large social gatherings are tedious for introverts, like me. But be thankful to have people in your life who care about you enough to want to include you in their celebration.

The holiday season will be over soon enough. Then, the introverts of the world can go back to enjoying wild nights at home with Netflix.

It wasn’t me!

Marketing Director Susan Hunt shares this story:

One year, my three kids and their five cousins disappeared upstairs at Mimi’s and Grampy’s house. Mimi kept an antique-looking phone in the guest bedroom that the kids assumed was disconnected. As children are wont to do, they cavalierly dialed 9-1-1 and listened, horrified, as the phone began to ring. They quickly hung up. And waited.

Several minutes later, the doorbell rang. Uncle Scotty answered the door to find a Sherriff’s deputy waiting outside. “Did someone dial 9-1-1?” he asked. The adults convened in the entryway and quickly called the children downstairs. Choruses of “it wasn’t me!” greeted us as the children shuffled downstairs. The sheriff understood and after some neighborly chit-chat and declining a piece of pie, he went on his way. Diplomatically, the parents, satisfied that the children were appropriately chastised, dropped the matter. At least until later that evening.

As we drove home, I grilled my kids again: “I believe you’re innocent,” I said, knowing my little angels would never lie to me. “Just tell me who did do it.” “It was ____________!” they confessed, throwing their cousin under the bus. I knew it all along.

Susan’s advice? Diplomacy first (duplicity later).

Director Sarah Mitchell’s catch-all advice:

My catch-all solution for whatever ails you on thanksgiving is to just take a walk. Butting heads with your in laws? Take a stroll and cool off. Need to find out who your niece has a crush on but she doesn’t want to talk about it in front of her parents? Stretch your legs with her. Bored with football? Out you go. Eat one too many pieces of pie? The great outdoors beckons. There is a very little that some fresh air and a hit of endorphins can’t solve.

What a trip, by Managing Director Jean Lenzner

With no family close by, I have traditionally used the Thanksgiving holidays as the perfect time to fit in a quick trip, often adding a vacation day or two make to stretch the long, holiday weekend. Last year’s destination was an unforgettable trip to the Amazon rainforest of Ecuador; other memorable locations have included Dubai and Hong Kong. As much as I loved each of these trips, I have found colder climates a little more conducive to engendering holiday spirit. Past cities have included Berlin, Montreal and Munich, as all of these cities host big Christmas markets. This year, I will be returning to New York City, and I am already looking forward to a bit of cold weather with all the lights and holiday decorations.

Jean’s advice? Make it an adventure!

And I never ate turkey again…

Director Bill Lepiesza shared this awkward moment from his post-college days:

One of our first post-college Thanksgivings, our friends had us over and didn’t realize that there was a plastic bag full of whatever inside the turkey (Editor’s note: giblets, that’s what’s in the plastic bag: heart, gizzard, liver and various other visceral organs), and cooked it with the bag inside. It was covered in melted plastic when it came out of the oven.

Bill’s advice? If the bag has melted or warped in any way during the cooking process, it’s best not to serve the turkey. The plastic contains chemicals that can leach into the bird. Frozen pizza, anyone?

The day she lost her lunch, by Ashley Martinez

Years ago, I went to Thanksgiving with my college boyfriend’s family. They live in the northern United States, and the weather was freezing cold. Dinner was going well until I started to feel nauseous. I excused myself and hurried to find a restroom. They were all full! I made my way to the front door just in time to lose everything I had eaten (it turns out they put cream in their mashed potatoes, and I’m lactose intolerant). By the time my boyfriend checked on me and I had pulled myself together, the vomit had frozen to the porch; we had to haul hot water from inside to wash it away. While my boyfriend’s mother’s first concern was getting that porch clean, the rest of the family put me at ease and diligently pointed out any dishes on the table made with dairy.

We’re still friends, and whenever I see him or any of his family members, it’s a running joke.

Ashley’s advice? Get those dietary restrictions out on the table before they are “out on the table” (or the front porch, or the bathroom).

Deep-fried turducken and Beaujolais

Database Research Administrator Mike Fulton, a Louisiana native, shares this story:

Many years ago, when I was around ten, my maternal grandfather—a devout Roman Catholic and a Cajun—drove to northeast Texas with us to have Thanksgiving with my father’s very observant, and teetotaling, Baptist family. He arrived with all the accoutrements to deep fry a turducken, as well as several bottles of Beaujolais. When my uncle protested about the wine, my grandfather just smiled and said, “I wrapped them up in brown paper just as the Baptists like it.” It was like the Wars of Religion in Europe all over again: Catholics on one side of the table sipping wine; Protestants on the other imbibing coffee or iced tea.

Mike’s advice? A little tolerance goes a long way.

Traditional takeout, by Managing Director Beth Ehrgott

Two years ago, as was tradition, the extended family gathered at my home for Thanksgiving. No one wanted to cook this year so we thought, no problem! We’ll order Chinese takeout. We called our favorite place down the road…closed. We tried the next place. And the next. And the next. We must’ve called a dozen places—all closed. Thanksgiving being a holiday all about food, I had assumed that most restaurants were open. I was wrong, and now I had a house full of hungry people and no food. We improvised: there was a half-eaten baked ziti in the fridge and two or three flank steaks in the freezer. And that was our Thanksgiving meal. You know what? We had a blast. True story.

Beth’s advice? Always have a backup plan.

A Thanksgiving vocabulary lesson, from Sarah Silva

When I was a little girl around eight or nine years old, I learned a new word at school. None of my classmates knew what it meant, but it sounded funny to our young ears, and we eagerly incorporated it into our growing vocabularies. Later in the month, during Thanksgiving dinner, my family members were saying our prayers and taking turns giving thanks. When it was my turn, I proceeded to list off all the people in my life I loved and appreciated. I mentioned a family member and used my new vocabulary word to describe him. The table went silent. My mom’s face dropped and quietly asked me if I knew what it meant.

That was first time I realized I had been calling my friends and family members a bad word. Thankfully, my family explained the meaning of the word, and gently suggested I strike it from my vocabulary. I apologized in great embarrassment. Our family still laughs about it to this day. (Just in case you are curious, the infamous word begins with “p” and rhymes with “trick”.)

Sarah’s advice? Laugh at yourself.

It was the kids, I swear!

Director of Finance and Administration Gayette Eicher tells this story about an invitation-only family holiday:

About five years ago, my kids and I were planning to go to Midland for the Thanksgiving holiday weekend. I can’t remember why our plans changed, but we found ourselves staying in Houston with no real plan. I quizzed each of my children as to what they would like to do; the consensus was for me to cook a traditional turkey dinner at my house. Shortly after my conversations with them, their dad’s plans changed, and he and his girlfriend were without a place to go on Thanksgiving. Inclined to believe the more, the merrier, I suggested to the kids that their dad and, let’s call her “T”, should join us. Unanimously and adamantly, the kids said yes to dad, but no to significant others. They wanted a family-only celebration. Against my better judgement and my nature, I complied. After inviting him via text, he responded, “what can we bring?” My response was, “you don’t have to bring anything but please don’t bring T.” He didn’t text back for a couple of days and when he did, his response was, “we’re going to do something else but thanks for the invite.” I never admitted that it was the kids’ decision. To this day, I’m sure he thinks it was me.

Gayette’s advice? Sometimes, there simply isn’t a graceful solution to an awkward situation. And that is the truth.

Guess who’s coming to dinner?

As if to prove Gayette’s point, Executive Assistant Bob Freeman shares this awkward story from his childhood:

My brother’s former wife showed on Thanksgiving just as we were about to eat. My mom swears she did not know she was coming nor invite her (but I think she did). The ex-wife tried to sit at the table close to my brother, but there was some resistance; for instance, “Why don’t you sit over here by…” It wasn’t long before she was involved in conversations with other family members, but my brother’s ex-wife remained visibly uncomfortable.

Bob’s advice? Thanksgiving is no time for surprises. Confirm your host’s invitation and, if you are the host or hostess, make sure your guests know who is coming to dinner.

Sometimes blended families work

Just when we all want to go running to the hills this holiday season, Associate Katelyn Griffith shares this charming story of a second family sending its love.

Almost every year, my boyfriend’s family hosts a big family reunion over the summer. It’s chance to spend a long weekend and real quality time with his aunts, uncles, cousins and their kids. They are some of the warmest and most welcoming people I have ever met, and have quickly made me feel like a member of the family. They also spend every other year celebrating Thanksgiving together. I haven’t been able to join them the past few years for Thanksgiving as I have been spending the holiday with my family. My boyfriend knows how much it means to me that his family would invite me and how much I love spending time with them, so each year he puts together a video for me. Everyone waves at the camera and shouts, “Hi, Katelyn!” It is the sweetest gesture and warms my heart year after year.

Katelyn’s advice? Find yourself a partner that goes out of their way to make you happy and a second family that always makes you feel special.

Peace and quiet and the presence of love, by Managing Director Jane Howze

Thanksgiving is more than Thanksgiving to me. It also coincides with my wedding anniversary. We will celebrate our 39th wedding anniversary on the 29th. We typically make Thanksgiving about us and celebrate in Hawaii where we honeymooned. In addition to the obvious benefits, we avoid any conflicts with family members, cooking mishaps and the other things that everyone else has written about above. I am always grateful for the peace and quiet and the presence of my love.

Her advice? Make the holiday your own.

Happy Thanksgiving from The Alexander Group

Together, we wish you a holiday season free of awkward moments. And if there are, as there inevitably will be, send your stories to us… we are always grateful for a good laugh.

When it comes to The Alexander Group traditions, Thanksgiving is a firmwide favorite. Whether celebrating the time of gratitude at a traditional dining table or on a beach, you’re sure to find us gathered with family and friends in meaningful locations, taking stock and making memories.

In the past, we’ve shared beloved recipes, travel tips and gratitude lists, so this year, we invite you to join our tables for the holiday in California, Hawaii, New Orleans, and Houston. These snapshots of Thanksgiving’s past reflect our authenticity, creativity, and thankfulness.

We’re pleased to share these moments with you.

Happy Thanksgiving from The Alexander Group!

Managing Director John Lamar shares his Napa Thanksgiving.

Director Bill Lepiesza shares his daughter’s Thanksgiving Turkey art.

We’re excited to introduce “Five Questions With Outstanding Leaders,” our new interview series that highlights the success of our executive search firm. We’ll interview change-makers, visionaries, and thought leaders across all industries and sectors to examine how they achieve professional success that benefits their communities. Today, we’re highlighting our expertise in executive search for life sciences, including senior leadership hiring in life sciences for key roles in the biotech and pharma industry.

Beth Ehrgott, Executive Search Firm Managing Director

Beth Ehrgott, the Managing Director and Head of the Global Life Sciences Practice for the Alexander Group, a global executive search firm for life sciences and other sectors with offices in Houston, New York, San Francisco, Park City, San Diego, and Washington, D.C., conducted this interview.

She has performed an executive search for life sciences across various disciplines, including research and development, finance, corporate development, and technical operations. Her expertise extends to legal, corporate affairs, investor relations, IT, compliance, HR, and DEI. This breadth of experience makes her a trusted partner for life sciences leadership recruitment, ensuring that companies have the right leaders to drive innovation and growth. She has also worked with Fortune 500 companies and private equity and venture capital-backed clients in consumer goods, manufacturing, non-profits, retail, financial, and professional services.

Beth sits down with multi-hyphenate Luke Timmerman to discuss purpose-driven leadership, aligning resources with the mission, team dynamics, and more.

Life Science Cares: Combating Poverty with Life Science Industry Support

c level executive search firm interview group photo

Earlier this year, I was privileged to join the National Advisory Board for Life Science Cares.

Life Science Cares provides a platform for life science companies and their employees to make a difference in eradicating poverty. It raises money to award grants to community nonprofits that implement research-based survival, education, and economic sustainability solutions, supercharging these grants with volunteer hours, donated goods, strategic support, and advocacy.

To date, Life Science Cares has awarded more than $9.5 million in grants and donated 30,000 volunteer hours to the communities of Boston, San Diego, New York, Philadelphia, and the Bay Area.

Within the Life Science Cares community, many heroes raise money and donate their time in a myriad of ways. Because there is magic in the telling and some who are waiting for philanthropic inspiration, I am delighted to highlight Luke Timmerman, an extremely inspirational member of the Life Science Cares community and fellow national advisory board member.

About Luke Timmerman

Luke is a biotech journalist, author, entrepreneur, founder of Timmerman Report, a leading biotech industry newsletter, and author of “Hood: Trailblazer of the Genomics Age,” a biography of automated DNA sequencing pioneer Leroy Hood. Luke was named one of the 100 most influential people in biotech in 2015 by Scientific American.

Since 2017, Luke’s Timmerman Traverse Mountain Climbing Campaigns have catalyzed the biotech community to give back more than $10 million to fight cancer, poverty, and sickle cell disease. During his most recent climb in the North Cascades of Washington State, he and a team of biotech executives and investors gained between 6,000 and 8,000 feet of elevation, covering 20 miles of land. The Timmerman Traverse team hit its goal of raising $1 million for Life Science Cares!

Executive Search for Life Sciences interviewee, Luke Timmerman — Tracy, Geneva, and Luke

Five Questions from an Executive Search for Life Sciences Firm

Luke graciously answered my five questions below:

1. When and how did the idea of climbing for charity come to you?

I started thinking about climbing for charity in the summer of 2017. I was at a point in my career when I established the Timmerman Report as a successful subscription-based publication for biotech industry professionals. Around the same time, I had gotten to a point in 15 years of mountaineering where I could seriously consider climbing Mt. Everest, the highest peak in the world. I thought that if I could push myself to climb Everest, that act would inspire the biotech community to give back to a charity that I care about.

2. How did you pick your first beneficiary?

The Fred Hutchinson Cancer Center had a pre-existing partnership with Alpine Ascents International. That was the guide service I knew I would climb Everest with. The partnership made perfect sense. As a journalist, I knew Fred Hutch scientists and their excellent work. Cancer research was at a moment of great possibility. I thought the biotech community could rally behind the climb of Everest and this excellent beneficiary organization.

3. You have climbed Mount Everest, which is known to be extremely difficult and demanding, and imagine it requires significant training to be in proper shape to take this on. Are there long-term physical effects from the effort?

I had some cold sensitivity in my feet for a while afterward but no long-term physical effects. The experience was more important mentally. I came away believing I was capable of much more than I had ever previously thought possible. The sky was the limit.

4. What are the most important qualities to have in team members when making such challenging climbs?

Missionary drive. The people who are most successful on these campaigns are willing to put in the hard work it takes to be successful. That comes from a passionate belief in the cause, the feeling that what they are doing is worthwhile service for others.

5. For others reading this who want to make a difference, what advice would you give them?

Find something you care about passionately in your bones. Think about what it is you have to offer in [terms of] skills and attributes that might contribute toward that cause. With so much instability in our world, it is important to reflect on the goodness of those trying to have an impact.

Luke, thank you for your time, inspiring leadership, and contagious efforts to support Life Science Cares!

The Alexander Group: Providing Global Executive Search for Life Sciences Companies

The Alexander Group is a leading executive search firm for life sciences, specializing in C-level talent acquisition. With over 40 years of experience as a biotech and pharma executive search agency, we prioritize building strong relationships and understanding your unique needs to align talent with your organizational culture.

Our executive search consultants for life sciences provide C-suite recruitment, advisory support, and consulting. We are committed to diversity, ensuring leadership teams with broad perspectives to drive success. Beyond placements, we assist with board composition, management assessments, and succession planning, making us a comprehensive senior executive recruiting firm for your needs.

For more information about our C-level executive search firm, visit our website.

The Alexander Group celebrated 40 years of executive search leadership with an April celebration at The Podium at Porsche River Oaks in Houston. The evening drew more than 150 clients and friends of the firm, culminating in speeches from Managing Director and Founder Jane Howze, Managing Director John Lamar, and long-time client Larry Jobe, former Regional Managing Partner of Grant Thornton.

Other clients and friends of the firm attended the party, including Bud Simpson, a client since 1993. Bud was the former Chief Human Resources Officer for Coastal Corporation and a local not for profit leader. We also welcomed Linda Lang, former CEO of Jack-in-the-Box; Steve Taylor, CEO of the Arthritis Foundation, Phil Rudolph, former General Counsel of Jack-in-the-Box, Keith Fullenweider, Chairman of Vinson & Elkins, Kent Zimmerman, Senior Partner of Zeughauser Group, Nick Peacock, Chief Operating Officer of Baker Botts, Jay Sears, Managing Partner of NewQuest, Jim Katt CEO of US Cryo, Tom Brackin, CEO of American Omni Trading, and Andy Baker, former Managing Partner of Baker Botts.

Revved up and ready for the next four decades (and more) of service to our clients, the party featured a host of Porsche’s newest cars, a curated selection of light bites and special sips, a 360-camera booth, and a drawing for one party guest, who won Porsche test track experience.

Scroll through the images below for a look at The Alexander Group celebration.